From childhood, we have been taught to share
everything whatever we possess with our friends, family or anyone who is in
need. Although, I certainly accept this notion but one question always remained
struck in my mind which is, is it really worth to share with ANYONE? Well, you
might share your stationary, books, food but would you really share your
thoughts, your feelings with someone?
Recently, I was at loggerheads with some of my friends
about this particular theory, whether to share your feelings or not? I was the
lone person standing with the idea that no, it is not worth to share your
feelings or your problems and a bunch of my friends stood against me. Their
idea was simple although orthodox, we have been taught to share our feeling or
to share our problems with someone we want to so that our body can become
clean, free from all the pessimism inside, free from suffocation. Basically
they described sharing as a vent through which you can again be normal, free
from irritation or trouble.
Well, I certainly liked the proponent's work and I
accept it as well that yes sharing helps you to feel light but with my
experience sharing only made the other person uncomfortable. It creates a sense
of awkwardness that you both can't get rid off and this has happened with me not once
but twice. It has been said that more than parents, friends are the one who can
counsel better simply because they might be going with the same atrocities or
situations but the fact is that this premise is partially correct.
Obviously, we have different kinds of people around us and
sticking to the topic of sharing, there are basically three types, one who
shares each and everything, every small detail of their life even how much they
spent the time in washroom glancing at themselves, the next being the sharers
who share only their problems or who might need counselling to get out of some
beleaguered situations and the last being the reticent group who keep almost
everything to themselves and don’t share a thing until it is a zombie
apocalypse and they are going to be dead soon.
Certainly I belong to the last type, for which I can give a
hundred reasons but would refrain here myself. Before stating, I here mean the
whole type. So, the most basic reason is that I can’t cry like a small baby in
front of anyone babbling my problems. You were born an individual, with your
own organs and mind so, why is there a need to put your head on other’s
shoulder and wait for their patting on your back and crave to listen, ‘Don’t worry
dude, it’ll soon be over, everything will be fine.’ The ones who share has the
only motive to listen to the golden words mentioned above and I don’t see the
point here, instead you can say to yourself standing in front of the mirror.
Now, the controversial question arises that why do you need help of others in
deciding something? So, the answer to which is, asking someone when you are
taking a different and important step forward is for the purpose to take advise and advise & sharing are two different sons of the same mother.
Well, then the next point not to share is that you might be
already feeling low and you start explaining your problems to someone who might
be in super awesome mood but ends up being low themselves. I experienced it
thrashing their mood badly for the sake of your being comfortable. Then there
are persons who would be your best friends but might be the worst listeners or
solvers. One day you might decide to share with them and your friend instead of
listening to you patiently ends up explaining his own shit to you and at the
end you would be the same as in starting and wondering, is he really my best friend?
The point of publishing this post is the recent events which
are going on and although I feel to vent out everything to someone but I can’t
and fortunately or unfortunately, I have done inception on myself that I won’t share
ever. Although, it feels very nice that someone values you more than others
when they explain their problems, when they share.
