Life is not REAL!

The world which we live in, our existence which is known as life is not real. It was never real and it will never be real. We were born, we grew up doing many things, we made friends, we studied, we worked hard, we got a job, we were married with someone, we had kids, we grew older and we died! Science call it a person's lifetime or life cycle and religion calls it a journey of soul. But in reality, it is plain stupid. Again, how can you determine or know this is reality?

PS: I am not drunk right now!

I always wondered, well from the time I started wondering and it dates back to many year, that what is life? What actually is life? My existence is life? What I feel is life? This planet Earth is life? What is life? Is life the feelings like happy, sad, angry etc? I don't believe there is any person who knows what is life? Every person has a different mindset. Walk on the road, meet strangers and ask them this simple question, what is life? I bet you will get the weirdest and the strangest and the newest of the answers?

We were taught from the starting that there is God who created everything. Well, Science doesn't says so. I am not an atheist but sometimes it's too hard to believe that there is someone who is controlling everything. I can't believe the people's mindset that they don't trust any random stranger but they accept and trust the fact that there is a God who runs and control the whole goddamn Universe! It's really very tough to believe.

So, we were told that Life basically means to be born, grow up and die. This is the basic simple criteria of life and in the whole process, we face trials and tribulations, happiness and success, pain and regret and guilt. Really? Is this life? Life is basically a magic trick performed by the best magician ever and we haven't realized it yet.

Religion says that we have a soul inside us, isn't that frightening in itself? Haven't you ever thought that one day that soul might come out from your body and might talk to you? Frightening! Several experiments have been done on this field and many even agrees with the fact. Incredible Magic trick again!!

Okay, simple point, if really we have a so called 'Life', how can people differentiate between a good life and a bad life? A person born poor and a person born rich, well, who decides that? A person born in USA and a person born in India, who decides that? A person born as a boy and a person born as a girl, who decides that? God? Where is he? Science? How?

Definitely, whoever reading this would either be considering me drunk or maybe insane. I am none. But really, calling a life which has just pain and suffering, is it really worth to have a life? The most intriguing sentence I have heard and read at many places is that, 'I have to know, what I really want in my life' and then, 'I have learned how to live a life.' Please dear friends, please teach me that. How have you learned to live a life? How can you seriously define life?

We are just like animals who are left in wildlife sanctuaries. At a point they start to believe that this is their home and they live there only, despite the fact that they are given a specific place to live. We are the same. Someone pulled a magic trick and we tend to believe everything around us is real.

We know how we are born which is by the process of reproduction. I agree, that is a clear method, believable! But death? What happens after death? If we believe in the 'Soul' term, what happens to it? Confused? There is no proof till date of our after-death, though there are some cases in which people described that they have seen the after-death world. To be very frank, I am scared right now, a little. What if today is the last night and tomorrow was just in the plans. Unpredictable, eh!

People believe in the process of birth, they even believe in Last Birth thing, but when it comes to after-death, the most common answer if asked the same is, 'The soul goes to either Heaven or Hell.' Now what is Heaven and Hell? Again, blank! No answer! There are 1000 questions but not a single answer and people have accepted this fact and they live happily in a so called Life

Dreams, now dreams are the most interesting part of Life! What are dreams? What do we see in it? How dreams are controlled and who controls it? Is there a future in dreams? Answer: um, I don't know! Dreams are just dreams. Everyone would have felt some incidents in reality which they would have seen before in dreams. So, are the dreams portal to the future? The source and motivation of my novel was actually a dream. I won't indulge into the story but to be very frank, I saw a dream much related to the theme of my story and I build the whole novel from it. So, basically what are dreams?

People so casually accept Dreams and Death as a part without even trying to know what they are where as they will take a full info of the people they meet. Amazing, isn't it? Certainly, I have many questions about my existence and about the existence of this whole world. I might probably go insane thinking about it in few years or I myself accept it as a fact. But, Life is not Real, it is the best magic trick someone ever pulled! 

You, Yes you, you are not Alone!

I recently took a trip to Pondicherry which is now Puducherry though the previous name was more cool. Anyhow, I was some 50 meters out from the shore, the water level was roughly around my neck and my feet were barely able to be on the ground in the water. The tides were passing though a big one might have caused trouble that time but I had a backup thanks to my friend. Now, when I was trying to be on my feet, I was more focused on thinking about my 2nd Novel's story rather than drowning or something. My eyes were glued at as far as I could see and for a moment I thought I was all alone there, with no one in sight, just silence, only I felt my presence and of course of water but literally, I realized I was alone. But, just a few minutes later, my friend tapped me on my shoulder from behind and some of the friends were screaming from the shore, asking me to be back there for photo session. Just in split second, I was not alone, I had everyone.

Five days since I returned and none of my friends are in hostel, all have gone home. Of course, anyone would feel alone and a person feels alone when his usual routine changes, when the people he moves with suddenly are not moving with him. Well, as a result, I confined myself in my room after bringing some 4-5 packets of grocery items like biscuits and chips and kept on watching many TV series. Today evening, I stepped out of the room and went out of the hostel and I was mixed up with a dozen people. Alone much? No!

The answer to considering considering yourself Alone is that even if your friends are not with you, even if you don't have much friends, even if you have not many people to talk to, you are still never alone. You have to push yourself to move out from the trite routine to be comfortable and to stop from being Alone.

Each and every person in this world was born as a single individual. Should he be called alone? No! In a few seconds, he would have everyone, he was never alone. Any person on this planet is never alone. Any person who claims to be alone just pretends to be alone, he never is. That person is simply so inspired by the movies or anything that he seems it to be cool and a style statement. Well, that happens for only a few minutes or say hours and then that person himself would turn for some company.

The world was not made to stay away and separate, it is made to be close to each other, to love each other, to know each other and the people just don't understand this simple-simple logic. It's really very easy to keep yourself at a distance from the society or the community. It is really very simple to be bored. It is really very simple to be depress and it is really very simple to declare yourself Alone.

But, everything happens for a matter of some time. After say some hours, you tend to talk to someone and that could be anyone, you find yourself a hobby to remove boredom, you either go to counselor or doctor to tackle your depression. You just try to be with someone and at the end you talk to anyone and whine that you are alone and feel better. In a way, you find a way to remove the 'Alone' factor by indulging into someone or something.

Alone is more of a mood. It happens for a very little time duration. Everyone wants a company, a good company. Some are deprived of it but still they hope not to be alone, some have it and they should really not call themselves Alone.

You are never alone, you just pretend to be alone. If you still consider that you don't have anyone, then find someone so that you would no more feel the same. Move out from being recluse, you will be joined by many new faces, still feel Alone? Go out, do something, do anything, make friends, talk to random people, talk to anyone, because there are billions of people and hence you are not alone.

I read an article somewhere a long time back. It was of a person, a USA soldier who served his country in World War II in France. When he came back after a couple of years after the war ended and after surviving two horrifying years, fighting everyday to be alive, he found that his family was no more. His wife, two small kids and his parents all died in a car crash just a couple of weeks before his arrival. He saved his life in the war but couldn't save his family's. He was obviously disturbed with that news, depressed, he even had to go to psychiatrist after that. He said, 'I killed many soldiers and I saw many deaths but the thought of my family waiting for me kept me to go on. Now, there is no one for whom I should live.' The soldier left the army and stayed at his house for almost an year, even the neighbors didn't know about his whereabouts. After a year, he got a job. He started playing guitar at subways and other places and collected money and took homeless people for a meal and talked to them for hours. It was his way not to be Alone. Apparently, he learned on his son's guitar in an year. So, the people who call themselves Alone, what's your excuse?

Life is too short and if you consider yourself alone then rethink, you would have someone with whom you can talk to, share to. Someone includes anyone and everyone even a random person walking on the road. Alone is just an option, it is you who think to take that option. Don't! You are not Alone, look around, you have someone, you have everyone. You, yes you, you are not Alone!

The Taste of Success

So, today's blog entry is not fictional or any kind of motivational drama. This blog entry is only addressed to my friend, Tanu Seth who was placed in a company, Ericsson just a few days ago. As I promised I'll write a blog for you when you'll be placed, so, here it is.

It was July 2014, when three super dream companies came for placements in the college. Super Dreams means CTC above 10 lakhs per annum. Though the hope was very little of being selected, but still rejection is rejection. Moreover, back to back rejections in three big companies definitely hurts.

As every result gives you something to learn, every student as well as Tanu started to study really hard in hope to be placed as soon as possible. When you are in 4th year, the only thing you care about is to see yourself placed. Although that doesn't mean you turn into a self centered lunatic or selfish nerdy character like Chatur Ramalingam. Everyone would be equally happy to see their friends being placed. But, the feeling of yourself getting placed is very different.

So, as the preparations kicked off, companies came and gone but she was not placed. I don't even remember the names of the companies but one after one they came and gone but Tanu was not placed. Sometimes, rejected from written tests, sometimes coding round and sometimes even from the last interview. Definitely, being rejected by approximately more than 25 companies is a disaster in itself. Low in self morale, low in confidence and low in expectancy are just words to say about, but the real feeling, the real pain can be expressed by none until someone has faced it.

I remember after one company, where she was rejected after 2nd interview and where the hopes of being selected were very high after giving a great interview, the mirrors of hopes were broken badly. Eventually, the result made her to skip company after company and when she gave the next company after a month, again she was rejected after the 2nd interview out of 3.

The saturation point had come and the semester was over. I believe after so many rejections, a person would go down and down inside. I have seen people, who whine unnecessarily after being rejected after just a couple of times. If you won't work hard, then how do you expect something in return?

I wrote something related to Rejection a few years back,

''Rejected-rejected-rejected-rejected!

Being rejected is bliss, they say.

The lack of confidence which is created, they never say.

Rejection makes you strong, they say.

The mental stress which is created, they never say.

Rejected once, might lift you up.

But, the spate of it, would only bury you down.

Still, the humans are meant to rise up,

To beat the odds is our duty.

To beat the failures should be the aim.

To conquer our fear should be the word.

If Rejection is for failures, then Reverting back is for success.

Facing Rejection is tough, but once lost is more than that.

Ask a quadriplegic who can’t move,

Ask a blind who can’t see,

Ask a soldier who lost his arm in war,

Ask them how they still survive in this gruesome life.

Ask them how they fight back to live their life.

Ask them how they survive, ask them how they survive.

Life was never straight, the turns were intentionally introduced in it.

A wrong turn might have destroyed much, but it never finishes anything.

There is always the other way, there is always a different time.

The idea is not to lose hope.

The idea is to stand back and fight for what you deserve.

The idea is to be impeccable.

The idea is to fight the rejection.

Everyone deserves something, everyone is good at something.

One trial or two don’t decide the fate, but leaving after it surely does.

There is a long way in a short life, keep up the pace, fight till the end.

You never know, further might be the diamonds after the coal.

Take Rejection as a word, and overcome it by learning it.

A day will come, when you would know to handle it.

A day will come when you would know to face it.

And that day will be the one when you would have achieved your aim.

And then you’ll say, Rejection is Bliss.''

You overcame every trial, every roadblock which came to your way and fought with it efficiently. Even after missing the company at the start of the semester, you took it patiently and today you are placed. It might not be a big deal for many, but it's a very big deal for you, your parents, family and friends. I have seen you suffering, I have seen you fighting and I have seen you conquering.

You are a source of inspiration, a story of motivation. I remember after giving an interview or exam, the only thing you were tensed about was, what's there to eat? Frankly, anyone after giving any entrance exam remain tensed till the shortlist or result comes out but your calmness was brilliant. Everyone should actually learn from it. Many can learn from you to how to keep calm and progress, how to keep your hopes alive and fight, how to properly analyze and hit it. I have seen people crying, I have seen myself after being rejected, the insanely way I behave and then I have seen you, frustrated but no problem, next time.

This is that time when people become so desperate to get a job that they would try for any job and every job, but your aim was fixed and leaving companies for the right one was the impeccable decision ever. You have done a tremendous job after such a disaster last semester both physically and mentally. You deserved it, hence you got it! Ericsson!

It's Simple. DON'T Complicate!

What do you prefer, tangled earphones or the untangled one? What do you prefer, a Highway where your car would move swiftly or a congested road having traffic jam? What do you prefer, a life of a simple person who is not afraid of anything or a life of a terrorist who can't sleep each night afraid of being caught?

I guess and I hope the answer to all the questions would be the simpler one. Well, the same is with Life. Life, what do you know about it? If you ask me, no one knows anything about it! If anyone could answer about the real meaning of life, that is their perception of it. Some believe to live a normal life, being satisfied with what they have. Some believe to climb up the stairs at every possible moment. Most of the human population are of the 2nd kind but after a certain period of time, most of them become the 1st kind. That's how the circle of life works.

So, the point is, no one knows what exactly life is. I have heard that when you realize the meaning of your life, then your life becomes worth living. I say, who is there to judge us? I can work hard and achieve a lot of success in my life or at the same time, I can be idle and do nothing. Money is not much of a problem, you can actually earn the money anyhow which would cover your basic necessity.

So, as everyone have their own perception of life, I have my own. Life is something which should be kept simple. By simple I don't mean problem free life. No! Whatever you will do, you will definitely face some kind of problem. What I mean is, there is no one to judge you, no one. You are the only judge of your life. So, why can't we keep it simple? Why can't we be away from the complicated part? Well, already you have so many problems, why do you complicate life?

For example, if a mother strongly emphasize not to do that particular thing and that might be catastrophic, then why should the son do that? He shouldn't, he shouldn't complicate the whole scene. For example, if someone is married and wife tells her husband not to do that particular thing, then what is the need to do it? I'm not talking about the restrictions, I'm talking about complicating the things.

Unfortunately, we humans are in a tendency to complicate everything we have got and then blame either to God or others. We would whine for the next many years but won't simplify it. If you had a very strong friendship and which is broken now, the only possible explanation is that the things became complicated. Well, just like the earphones are untangled and used again, the same could be done with broken friendships or any other relation with anyone. We, humans search for new people and just leave behind the old ones. Then we should also buy new earphones every time they become tangled.

Well, easier said than done, but that's the story of every Human Being and that includes me as well. The whole point of this post was, life is simple, pretty simple. The only complicated thing in our whole lifetime was the way we were born and that was the time when we cried without reason. Life is simple, if you manage it very well. There is a difference between problem and complication. Problem arises because of each and every complication which was done before and it evolved over the time and came in-front of us as a problem.

I am not saying to live your life the way you started it. I am not saying not to hope and not to aim for more. But, everything can be done if you follow a simple path, then your hope and aim would definitely be fruitful, not today but definitely tomorrow.

Everyone has a complicated life, not a problematic one and that's the reason we do not tend to enjoy it or smile about it or be happy about it. A person can only smile or laugh if he would have a simpler situation. So, try to keep everything simple, life is not about ego, it is not about proving others wrong. Life was meant to be simple and to keep it simple.

Uncertainty of Life!

'When I'll be back, we'll go for dinner in a fancy restaurant' said a mother to her child before getting on MH370. 'Dad, please come back soon, I have a lot to tell you and have a safe flight' said a child to his father who was getting on MH17. 'I love you and I'll surely miss you. Don't worry we'll meet soon, it's just a month' said a person to his wife who was later killed in a car accident.

There is nothing as such, 'Will meet you next time', there is nothing as such, 'will do the rest tomorrow.' There is nothing like tomorrow, there is nothing like future. What's there for you at the next turn, no one knows. What's there for you at the next hour, you don't know.

Imagine those people how would they have felt when the person very close to them might have died. Not only this, what if the two had quarreled over a topic and the 2nd person would have left to avoid a scene and the next news he might have heard was the death of the 1st. It could be by anything, road accident, heart-attack, falling down from stairs, anything. Imagine the guilt the other person would hold. Imagine the regret the people hold when their loved ones suffer a sudden demise and they wouldn't be able to say the final goodbye.

I know a person who was in school when his grand-mother was very ill. Daily that person used to smile before going to school and the grand-mother would return back a smile with a few words like, 'Had breakfast' or anything while she remained in the bed. One day that person woke up late, he looked at her grand-mother who was sleeping, her eyes closed but in a hurry didn't wait for her to wake and didn't smile that day. While he was in school, someone came to his school to pick him up and to inform him that his grand-mother died. Imagine the emotions that person would have went through? He could have waited a few seconds to smile but it wasn't in his fate.

Life is too short and hating and fighting with the person whom you love should be considered to be a waste of time. You never know, one day you will hurriedly go for office without meeting your family members but you won't come back. Success, career, accomplishment should be important but keeping your loved ones happy should be the prime item in the list, because again you never know what will happen next.

What will you prefer? Final goodbye with a smile or final goodbye with a fight. Obviously the 1st option. Death is not controlled, it's not in your hands but keeping good terms, living happily, making everyone smile, that is in your hands and which you can control very easily.

At the end, everyone has to die, whether today or tomorrow, it doesn't matter. You will be left with memories which will make you cry, which will make you regret all the bad times which you experienced before. It's your choice, have those memories with everyone that you'll cherish even after the person's death, not those that you'll be succumbed to regret.

Personally, I'm not afraid to fail in the exams, I'm not afraid of failing to achieve anything, I'm not afraid to taste failure. I'm only afraid to lose the people I care about.

Stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about others. For me, I don't feel satisfied to make myself happy rather I feel the best to make others happy, to see people smile because of me. The idea of keeping yourself happy is long gone in the past, make others happy, make others smile, surely there would be someone to do the same for you too.

'Chance': You were already given!

I was terrified, scared and restless for seeing all doors in-front of me closed. I was not talking to anyone, I was staying recluse, I was running far away from everyone. I was doing all kinds of weirdness, I was irritated and frustrated. I had no hope, no ray of light, nowhere to go.

I believe at one point of time, it happens with everyone when you raise many questions on your own existence, on your life, on your luck, on the chances given, on the opportunities you lost, on seeing success of others and yours failure. It is a common psychology when you are preparing for something with all your heart and when a roadblock hits you hard amid the process, you tend to lose, you tend to be mentally exhausted.

I was working on something from quite some time and thought of having a review. I showed my work to someone and got the mixed response, though the negative ones could be improved easily, but I was stunned and startled. I saw myself falling down, saw myself crushing my own dreams, saw myself talking nonsense to everyone, saw myself thinking the worst that could happen to me. But I was wrong.

Actually, I'm blessed with some people who are with me and who comes and teaches me every time, seriously every time, whenever I wish to quit my dreams. It's in my habit or maybe others also, I tend to start questioning the meaning of life. Why were we born? Who is God? What is Universe? Where would we go after death? Were we born simply to face the problems throughout our lifetime and then die hurting others?

The possible and the best explanation I got from someone was, 'The life which you were given is itself a CHANCE which no one realizes. Even if there is no explanation of many things, would you be happier to have a life of a rat or would you be happier to have a life of a human?'

Science will always fight with the BELIEFS, but it us who are caught in between. We are living, that itself is a chance because there are many creatures who are also in this world but that's not living. But being 'Human' is a chance, a chance to do anything you wish to do, which you like, which you want to. Rather questioning your existence, rather questioning the closed door, rather questioning the lost opportunities, rather questioning your failures, think only one thing that is, you are living, you are a human, this is your chance! Period.

Who knows what happens after we die and who cares? We should not waste that much of time to think the after-life shit, instead we have a chance because we are living. So, create opportunities, open new doors, leave the failures behind and take a detour to reach success.

Total living things, including all the animals, insects, plants and human beings on this planet would be much more than 10000 billions but see, you are lucky enough to be Human. 'Life' is a chance not a burden. 'Life' is an asset not a liability. The Chance was already given to you, it's time to utilize!

Parents!!

What I have written till now and what I usually write is usually related to Success and Motivation stuff but the reason why I actually write is my Parents! Yes, they are the only reason why I started to write and I'm glad I have done this.

Without looking any childhood pictures because they bring back the old memories, I remember a scene I guess I was 3 years old because before that I don't remember anything, so, I was sitting on my papa's laps and both were watching a cricket match. He was interested in watching the match where as I was least interested and had my full attention towards my papa who was smiling at me, making faces as I looked at him.

The reason for writing this post is because today in the morning, I asked my father to credit me some money because I was broke, AGAIN! Naturally like any other father, he asked me the reason because the last time I asked was just a week before, yet I was over with the money. A little explanation to him, and he transferred a little more than I asked without any scuffle, without any altercation over phone. Now this is the part where I feel living in Hostel sucks because that was the time when I wanted to hug my father, or smile at him. But, no I couldn't, I was refrained to only say thank you!

I desist myself from any kind of work, lied down, played songs on the phone, and remembered everything from the starting. I was nostalgic, deep into nostalgic as I remembered every small stuff, every small detail how my mother would put me over the slab and then cook dinner while I sat there placid and calmly looking at the most beautiful person, how my father would make me stand in-front of him on the scooter and when I would feel the cold breeze he would turn my face towards him. I could write a whole book of events, lively and memorable moments and events with my parents.

Last Summer, me and my brother told my parents to take us to a trip, that was awesome too though, the real trip, the real adventure are the moments which you share regularly, daily. You don't know how much precious they are until and unless you move out of the home and live in all new world. Being is hostel feels like being independent, but I still miss my home, I miss my parents, I miss my brother. The most common words which everyone says are, 'I miss Mom's cooked food', but what everyone misses is the warmth and love which radiate from her and transfers in to the food.

There are times when every child would have become hostile, when they demanded from their parents and there are times in everyone's life when they simply can't fulfill your wishes not because they don't want to, but just because they can't at that very moment. Sharing one example, I asked for a new phone, they refused, i asked again they refused, again and refused, I went home from hostel in semester break, I asked again and they refused but one night we all returned after doing dinner from outside, and what I got was a brand new phone, a surprise gift from my parents and my brother.

If any person would say I hate my parents, they have nothing done for me then possibly one should take a knife and stab the person, stab enough to die. If Parents go against you, then that is for a reason, they know better than you, if they shackle you from doing anything, understand it, just because they know what might be the consequences.

Frankly, I have shouted, I have fought a lot with them and now I regret doing everything like that because now I understand the true and real values which they have taught me over the years. Whenever any kind of quarrel occurs with my parents and unintentionally if I might have said anything, it would have been venting out my anger but for them that's hurt, hurt right at heart. I feel bad now, why-just why I argued with them so vaguely, being so naive that I caused them hurt, cause them to cry inside.

I have read somewhere and this is a fact, 'Whole world might go against you but your parents would always hold your hand', until and unless you do something remarkably unethical. What I learnt in all these years is, if your parents give you a straight no, then understand them than be aggressive, sit with them and ask the problem rather scream on top of your lungs and go out!

Even an atheist believes in his/her parents, no matter he/she doesn't believe in anything else. Respect your parents, they did more than enough for you and would continue doing more than their reach till their end. Respect their love for you, no parents hates their kids. Respect your parents for guiding you, respect your parents for giving you values, respect your parents for everything. Life is very short, very unpredictable, don't be a person who would regret later for not doing anything for his/her parents, be a person who knows how to keep his/her parents happy and satisfied. Even when they retire and you would earn, most importantly they would require your care, your support and your presence. Laugh with them, live with them, thank them and love them!

Find yourself!

'Mom, I want to become rich, famous and I wish to have enough money that I could do anything I want to.' This is the most common line every parent would have heard, even I thought of the same but that was childhood, when a 100 Rs note was more satisfying than anything else. However, the adulthood hit us hard, hard enough to crack our outer layer, opening our inside, enabling us to see harsh, ruthless, vicious world which is known to us as LIFE!

I never realized when my dream of becoming a Pilot was modified so badly that I landed up in an engineering college along with thousands of others who had the same dream in their early years. I never realized I would be so frightened to face the world on my own, it was just like yesterday standing behind my parents as they fought to make way for me. I never realized when the time changed and I have to wash my clothes, manage the monthly budget and spend scrupulously, it was like yesterday when I was at home and sneaked 5 Rs from my mother's purse to get a chocolate.

Being in hostel, being independent has taught me a lot. But wait, where does the money come from? Yes, parents yet, independent yet? No, no way. I haven't started my life yet, I haven't started earning yet.
I would say if anyone wouldn't have seen any mental hospital then visit any engineering college and talk to the 3rd and 4th years students and just ask them, 'Placements, GATE, GRE, CAT, GMAT, UPSC or anything else?'

Being in 6th semester and seeing Placement companies and Higher studies' competition exams around the corner, trembles me. It's like passing through a graveyard at midnight, no matter you believe there are no ghosts, no dead corpse would rise up from their grave but the people around you would make you believe of their existence. You might and would pass through successfully but the tormented condition you might have to face would be unbearable.

Every person going through the same phase has many options but each one is going through a dark tunnel, you don't know what is on the other side but you have to believe and trust in yourself. That's the only source of light which will pass you through. Although the main adversity arises when a person doesn't know which tunnel to pass through, and that creates chaos and havoc in their mind which turns into over-thinking, stress, mood swings and importantly fracas with friends.

I recall a line from the movie, 'Pursuit of Happyness' when Will Smith tells his son, I would rather copy paste it.

''Hey. Don't ever let somebody tell you... You can't do something. Not even me. All right?

You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it.''

Now, that's the reality. People try to discourage you in every possible way if you step on something else, something unusual, not the traditional way, not because they despise you but they are too fearful of taking risk that they would rather be in the conventional path than on the other. Well, that's the safest mode and the best one, I agree but this is the time when you have to decide yourself, what do you want to do? A sadist profession or a happy ambition.

If you wish to go to foreign, don't have another thought, prepare for it but have a contingency plan to execute. There is not much time left when your parents will be in hope to get your services and if you are still in dilemma what do you want to do and what do you want to be, then gear up fast because the high tides are coming very fast, either protect yourself or be engulfed, either find yourself now or cry at yourself later!

Life, what is it?

In last few days, I have read many posts related to life and meaning of it and also met a couple of people, obviously elders who have well explained me the meaning of life. Moreover, I am free these days and when someone is free, there 'Deep Thinking' mode switches on.

So, what is life? What is the reason we are living? Who is the creator? Is GOD real or just a myth? Are we in a dream, a state of illusion where we are tending to believe anything and everything? Just like the movie, Matrix, is it possible that we are living in a virtual world? Universe, what is it, just simply infinite empty space? Why is the reason that we have accommodated and accepted the belief that there is another life after death? Why do we suffer in agony and pain, but still live the shit life thinking that we have only one life, who knows where would we go after death?

Well, I can write and ask a hell lot of questions apart from these and not only me, there are millions like me who are depersonalized and who are desperate to know everything. But, we are restrained in such a world, in such a life where we learn to accept whatever is thought to us, whatever is fed to us and believes in whatever the world is believing. There are two kinds of people, one who accepts and believes in whatever he sees and the other who takes a separate lane, takes a different route to know the answer to every question but the similarity between both of them is that they wind up dead at some point, without getting any answer.

Well, although I'll remain in dilemma till my death whether we are actually living or it's just a fantasy world but still, everyone is here to live a good life, an enjoyable one without any problems, no atrocities just happiness.
Now, if asked the question of 'How to enjoy life', everyone would have different answers.

What I have experienced and what I have learnt from many people, Life is another word for emotions as well as relations. If you ask any other person, the 1st word which will come out would be Money and in fact there is no doubt about it. Money would provide you anything even happiness. But what I believe and I would repeat again, Life is simply Emotions and Relations.

You would be a millionaire, but what if you don't have any relations. Relations come handy with emotions, No emotions No relations. A friend taught me something which was and is indeed very useful, 'It doesn't matter whether you call or message someone first and it does not matter if it happens every time, what matters is that you keep the bond alive, you keep the relation alive!'

Everyone is busy with their life, you move away to different places, you will have different friends there, different routines, different priorities but what remains same is your bonding with the person whom you left behind. A simple remembrance via message or call from your so called busy schedule won't hurt anyone, but would only be a way to rejoice. Ego won't bring anything good but would simply kill any relation, stop all the emotions and causes a catastrophe in everyone's life.

You will anyhow end your life with death, but at that time, when you'll recall everything, you won't remember money, you won't remember the places you visited but you would remember, the people with whom you spent the money, the people with whom you went to various places, the people with whom you enjoyed, the people with whom you shared your happiness.

Life is a mixture of emotions and relations. A perfect quantity of each could bring wonders not only to you but to everyone who is connected with you. If you maintain a relation, you can maintain anything.

Need of a Friend - Poem

I was going through my poems and I found this particular one which I wrote in 2nd semester and actually this is the 1st one!

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I wish I could have a friend,

With whom I can change every trend.

I want to cry out loud,

But there is no one to listen, that’s the doubt.

Need a friend, whom I can trust.

But, today friendship is like rust.

I want someone’s shoulder,

But no one is tight as a holder.

Everyone is mean, but they don’t seem.

They want to pass the time, and they do Day and Night.

Need someone who could understand my thoughts,

But there is none from various lots.

Word-Selfish comes in between,

Maybe that’s the problem with the teens.

It’s tough to stay away from home all alone,

Just you have you and your clone.

All you can do is to miss your family,

But, it’s tough to live five months separately.

I wish I could go back soon,

Otherwise, lately I’ll become a cartoon.

To counter these, all I need is a friend here,

Who will be always there!!

No Home - No Diwali

Everyone is gearing up to celebrate one of the most important festival i.e, in short 'Diwali'. So, although I stayed back in college for these Diwali vacations but majority of the students went back home to celebrate this auspicious festival with their family. Well, it certainly is the right job to do-to go home during vacations that too for Diwali. So, when everyone would return after the vacations, there will be a high volume of experiences being told, what they did and how they enjoyed but there is still ample of time to listen to that stuff. Before that, I'll tell how does one person feel not to go home and stay in the freaking ghostly hostel.

Although the students who were determined to go home @Diwali already booked their tickets much earlier and those who were in dilemma whether to go or not booked much later but somehow managed to get confirmation, but the real planning was executed a week before, talking to faculties to postpone the exams and reviews etc. As I had no plan to go but obviously for a moment of two the idea of leaving crossed my mind and especially when I realized that those friends who couldn't go home are going, say, relatives home or for expedition with family or with friends.

Now, 2 days of holidays and I'm already going berserk, being left with two room-mates and a couple of other friends is exasperating in itself and moreover the situation exacerbates when one of your room mate is leaving for relatives home the next day.

One of my friends asked me a question, 'You should have come home, it's a prefect break amid the creepy semester. Well, if you are really not coming to home, you must be enjoying there, right?'
Well, although I laughed hard listening to him but yes he was right, I'm enjoying a hell lot than I do at home. Now, the next question is how? I'll tell you how.

The ones called obnoxious campus just because of so much of crowd has become a serene and placid place where I won't find anyone recognizable and I simply get back to the hostel. It's actually exciting and time consuming that I don't talk to anyone on my way which once was time wasting talking and laughing and doing all the crazy things on the way, yes it definitely feels awesome. Then after getting back to hostel again I realize that there are not much students left, so comparatively the corridors are dark, the washrooms are empty, no one presses 2nd floor in elevator and no one howls during power cut-offs. Yes, I'm so enjoying here these days.

Let me add more of my fun experiences, I went to outdoor stadium which ones was packed with crazy footballers, maniac athletes and body-builders in gym and now I see a dozen of people playing football, a couple of students running through the tracks and feel the calm winds blowing just like you feel when walking through a lonely road with no signs of human population. Did you see there, how much I am enjoying right now? Okay, if you are still not satisfied then I'll tell you more. From last couple of days seeing the statuses like, 'Enjoying at home' 'Wow, mom's food, in love with it' 'There is nothing better than being at home @Diwali' feels so great and wonderful that yes people are also enjoying at home just like I'm doing the same in college. How could I forget about pictures, it feels so intriguing to see pictures of your friends firing crackers, with sweets or with parents. I feel a sense of relaxation to see the happiness, where-where I'm enjoying so much that I missed everything like crackers or sweet and importantly being with family.

Man, I feel speechless when someones asks me this question that's why I couldn't respond at that very moment. But, still I'll manage to have sweets, when my friends will be back I have ask them to bring some because come on, going home for the sake of sweets, crackers and meeting everyone is too mainstream so instead of that, I asked my friends, cool right?

So, this will be all of my experiences and enjoying stories, I can't believe that I enjoyed so much for the very 1st time. Although, yes forgot to wish, Happy Diwali! May everyone will enjoy every second and the festival would end all the problems, open all the shackles and would write a new successful chapter in your life, happy Diwali! :)

Sharing, worth to?

From childhood, we have been taught to share everything whatever we possess with our friends, family or anyone who is in need. Although, I certainly accept this notion but one question always remained struck in my mind which is, is it really worth to share with ANYONE? Well, you might share your stationary, books, food but would you really share your thoughts, your feelings with someone?

Recently, I was at loggerheads with some of my friends about this particular theory, whether to share your feelings or not? I was the lone person standing with the idea that no, it is not worth to share your feelings or your problems and a bunch of my friends stood against me. Their idea was simple although orthodox, we have been taught to share our feeling or to share our problems with someone we want to so that our body can become clean, free from all the pessimism inside, free from suffocation. Basically they described sharing as a vent through which you can again be normal, free from irritation or trouble.

Well, I certainly liked the proponent's work and I accept it as well that yes sharing helps you to feel light but with my experience sharing only made the other person uncomfortable. It creates a sense of awkwardness that you both can't get rid off and this has happened with me not once but twice. It has been said that more than parents, friends are the one who can counsel better simply because they might be going with the same atrocities or situations but the fact is that this premise is partially correct.

Obviously, we have different kinds of people around us and sticking to the topic of sharing, there are basically three types, one who shares each and everything, every small detail of their life even how much they spent the time in washroom glancing at themselves, the next being the sharers who share only their problems or who might need counselling to get out of some beleaguered situations and the last being the reticent group who keep almost everything to themselves and don’t share a thing until it is a zombie apocalypse and they are going to be dead soon.

Certainly I belong to the last type, for which I can give a hundred reasons but would refrain here myself. Before stating, I here mean the whole type. So, the most basic reason is that I can’t cry like a small baby in front of anyone babbling my problems. You were born an individual, with your own organs and mind so, why is there a need to put your head on other’s shoulder and wait for their patting on your back and crave to listen, ‘Don’t worry dude, it’ll soon be over, everything will be fine.’ The ones who share has the only motive to listen to the golden words mentioned above and I don’t see the point here, instead you can say to yourself standing in front of the mirror. Now, the controversial question arises that why do you need help of others in deciding something? So, the answer to which is, asking someone when you are taking a different and important step forward is for the purpose to take advise and advise & sharing are two different sons of the same mother.

Well, then the next point not to share is that you might be already feeling low and you start explaining your problems to someone who might be in super awesome mood but ends up being low themselves. I experienced it thrashing their mood badly for the sake of your being comfortable. Then there are persons who would be your best friends but might be the worst listeners or solvers. One day you might decide to share with them and your friend instead of listening to you patiently ends up explaining his own shit to you and at the end you would be the same as in starting and wondering, is he really my best friend?

The point of publishing this post is the recent events which are going on and although I feel to vent out everything to someone but I can’t and fortunately or unfortunately, I have done inception on myself that I won’t share ever. Although, it feels very nice that someone values you more than others when they explain their problems, when they share.

Down NOT Out

This post might be long but definitely worth a share. I recently had a talk with a person who was my senior in school. So, I thought to share his story because not only its an intriguing one but also motivating.

I'll start with going 6 years back describing this person, let me set his name as 'X' (X because of my love for Maths). So, as being my senior, he was the boss of mine, a little cheeky and brazen but I guess, every senior behaves the same way. Mr.X held a foolhardy personality in his school days, although he was the most famous boy in the school both between students as well as in management. Adding on, being the Head Boy and before House Captain, this guy was the most versatile I ever came across and also he always held the position in top 5 in the class.

But, surprisingly, when he left the school after completing class 10th and went on to join a different school after getting above 90% in the boards examination, he had a complete makeover. The guy was turned introvert with very few friends. Neither did he roam around nor he did any co-curricular. It was extremely bizarre to see the image makeover possibly because of the work load which he got from studying for the JEE examination. As being smart and intelligent, he scored brilliant marks in every test paper of the coaching and not only his teachers were counting on him to crack JEE with a good rank, but also his parents, relatives and friends were also hoping the best but he ran out of luck and didn't get a rank in either JEE or any other examination.

It was like the lightening had struck him, his whole world turned upside down but he was a scrupulous person and without hesitation joined 'Chemistry Honours' in DU University. Although he was scathed by the fact that he didn't crack any examination but was unfazed and unabated by the taunts which he received later from everyone for failing.

He might have taken admission in one of the best colleges of DU University, but the personality which he had was no where near to the one 2 years back. He lacked confidence, his speaking skills were down to zero, he was not that smart as he was earlier. The 2 years almost ate him from everywhere. Moreover, when he managed some strength to fight back, he was rejected by everyone. X tried to get in a couple of clubs and Student's chapter but was rejected every time.

Well, if he was not X and any other person, he would have accepted defeat to the hands of nature because it's not quite easy to reconcile the fact that he failed at the most important exam and selected a different. But, he was not over yet, he rose back and he did that remarkably.

He didn't accept defeat but accepted his line of work. He wrote a research paper which was not only appreciated by his own professors but also by foreign University professors. Then, as having already an interest in Business, he put his step in the share market and within an year he stood over the profit of 1lakh rupees of his own. Not only this, out of being dejected and recluse, he started a new student chapter himself quoting,'You disallow me, I'll ruin you' and is on the eve of opening a NGO. Not only this, he managed to crack IIM-Ahmedabad and is currently pursuing his MBA there. No one in the college knew about him till the end of 2nd year, no one eyed on him for 2 years and now not only he has fame but also he is successful.

The reason for the sharing of this particular story is when I was demoralized and frustrated, knowing about him and his efforts pumped a great energy in me and now I'm filled with all the enthusiasm to fight back.

Let me try to summarize in points,

1. In what so ever field you are, don't neglect it as it is fruitful. It depends upon the person to how to extract benefits from it.
2. The past doesn't sets your end, but the future does.
3. Find happiness in whatever you have but crave for more.
4. Failure doesn't mean OUT, it means to come again with more capacity and capability.
5. You might be down but you won't be never out.
6. Time is a circular river, you'll reach the same place from where you started, but it depend on you whether you'll drown or you'll flow with it.
7. Dreaming satisfies, but conquering your dreams is much more than that.

You might be down, demoralized, feeling incapable of doing anything, but the truth is that's the start of your race, to show the world your worth, to show everyone who considered you a looser what you are capable of. It's time to put your wrath and agony in right direction and make your way to glory.

Exams: Destroying and Reconstructing Happiness

Well, here comes exams back again to ruin the happiness of everyone. Without doubt, exams should be given the no.1 award in the category of omen. Their arrival not only takes away all the happiness, but also dilute the peace and calmness to zero, disallow to sleep and much more. Actually, exams take the test of your patience, 'Brother, let's see how long can you be without being exasperated.'

Although exams are one kind of evil, doing Satan's job in today's world but on the bright side, it has many advantages as well. Yes, exams do have advantages, but yeah obviously I'm not stating with reference to knowledge and marks part. See, while being in Hostel, I learn that the only time you remain in the room with other room mates and friends is the night time as you go out in the morning, finish your classes, roam around the campus and get back only by evening. So, when the exams come nearby, out of fear of marks, parents or grades, you would certainly be glued to one place for the whole day rather roam around everywhere and that's the time when you struck a real conversation (the emotional and sharing one) with your friends as obviously you can't stare at your book for that long, hah!

As I'm reiterating, exams although ruin everything but helps to bring friends together. Like, mostly you will feel miserable while preparing for it and it's common human tendency to talk to your friends about anything which you usually don't other than the topic of exams. You would have the urge to be in a conversation with the friend sitting nearby and you would feel nostalgic and talk to you friends who are not much in contact.

Exams makes you to do all the insane things which you don't want to do when occupied. It's a common observation that out of nowhere you would get fond of movies and TV series. You would become so desperate to watch something and cheat with yourself by saying, 'Just one episode of 20 minutes and then I would study' or 'I should play Fifa 13, transfer season is up, after that I would study.' Moreover, you will make plans of  expedition amid the study and would dream of it intermittently and the best part of the exams is you will fall in love with the sleep again.

Actually, doing all the weird things keeps the mental pressure down, although some regret later of wasting the time but it is nice to be more involved in friendship, watch all the pending episodes and movies, finish your game and sleep satisfactorily. Exams come and go, but the beauty of it would never fade away. It is up to you to do all the weird things apart from studying and make it pass away quickly by enjoying it or stay recluse and irritated while gazing at your books constantly.

Source of MOTIVATION

Motivation, well if you ask someone, what it is? Everyone would answer something this and that and eventually they are somehow the same and prolix, but if you ask them from where does they get this motivation, the answer differs. Some have seen vicious past, some have a strong aim to achieve, some wants to prove to everyone what they really are. Everyone has got their reason, everyone has got something to achieve, but the only roadblock they get is Motivation.

Well, nothing lasts forever, and so is this motivation. You saw a movie for say, Social Network, your adrenaline rush is on fire, you make all the ideas to be the next entrepreneur, to be a college drop-out, to be something big who no one else is and indeed you start working towards it. But, obviously it won't last a long time, it has to fade away sometime, your mind has to be blank again, it has to search again for motivation.

I was motivated from a person, a writer who is the editor of a magazine, editor of many clubs in our college. I simply asked him about the source of his motivation. And the response which he gave me was hilarious, a bizarre and intensified as it was certainly calling to moot.

'Whenever all the wrong thoughts cross my mind, whenever I become a pessimist, whenever I'm out of the ideas and ready to quit, I imagine my mother weeping for me, I imagine my brother patting me, I imagine my father hugging me and I imagine my good friends rising me up. Yes, I do, I think of the day when my novel will be published and the time, when my mother would cry in joy, when my father would be proud of me, when my brother would proudly say to his friends about me.

Moreover, I day dream that I'll be invited to some institution as a key Motivational Speaker and being nostalgic at that moment and explain my story to the youngsters who would be in a desperate need to be motivated. I'll explain them the value of being rich from the rags, to be something different from the bunch of similar people, to rise up from the grave and to be a personality. I day dream the time when I'll be famous, when very other person would be running to get an autograph, to get a glimpse and that is success.

Well, all these dreaming keep me unabated and unfazed from anything, take it bullying, the peer pressure, pessimism or anything, I certainly don't feel aback from these little pity things, just because I see the smiling faces of my close people, how proud they would be if I achieve my goal. I consider only two options for any problem in my life, 1. Success and 2. Try Again.'

His words were imprinted on my mind. He definitely changed my perception and showed me a new way to be motivated. I certainly had the goosebumps when I listened to him patiently. Well, it is simple that whatever your aim is, work for it, make a strategy and conquer it with passion. Intense work is mandatory to achieve your aim, be unscathed from the beleaguered situations, from the usual shackles at every corner. Be motivated, be pumped, achiever your aim, be impeccable.

The Idle Mind

The fundamentals of every other person says not to sit idle, to do some work and when they are completely exasperated they use to use slang like, 'You'll destroy your life sitting like this' 'You can't make money sitting idle' 'You are such a dull pathetic creature' and much more which I can't obviously write. All these slang comes from the people who are closer to you but let's not move in that way at-least now.

What I believe is that the power, the real power of brain, the thinking capacity is generated at the most when you are idle. Usually you do nothing, maybe because of a weekend or before exams tension, or irritated from everything or possibly you don't what to do anything, you believe in staying recluse.

Although its an imbroglio situation to handle, to get a control but if you utilize it properly and efficiently then you might turn up with the next big plan to be the next big thing. Actually, every person is creative in his own way, some knew it from a small age, some realizes it later and then there are some, who always fell that they are creative but do nothing in transforming it.

For example, the idea of myself being a writer or poet came from an idle mind while pooping. It was 1.5 years back when every friend of mine was busy playing the game counter strike and I sat there idle looking at them. Moreover, as this weekend started, I decided to be idle and it went awesome, as I got an idea for a project within few hours being idle.

It's lame to say to every idle person that they are useless, although some are, but that's the perfect time to think out of the box and work over it. The idle mind is necessary in its own way, it takes us away from the regular work tension, classes, projects, assignments, arrogant friends, career etc etc etc. It's the placid thing to do.

So, believe me, if you are shrouded by many problems, take your time, calm your mind and do nothing, I do mean nothing. Mind is an equilibrium, if you won't work, it will to make the system perfect and hence bringing about some of the brightest ideas ever.