Sharing, worth to?

From childhood, we have been taught to share everything whatever we possess with our friends, family or anyone who is in need. Although, I certainly accept this notion but one question always remained struck in my mind which is, is it really worth to share with ANYONE? Well, you might share your stationary, books, food but would you really share your thoughts, your feelings with someone?

Recently, I was at loggerheads with some of my friends about this particular theory, whether to share your feelings or not? I was the lone person standing with the idea that no, it is not worth to share your feelings or your problems and a bunch of my friends stood against me. Their idea was simple although orthodox, we have been taught to share our feeling or to share our problems with someone we want to so that our body can become clean, free from all the pessimism inside, free from suffocation. Basically they described sharing as a vent through which you can again be normal, free from irritation or trouble.

Well, I certainly liked the proponent's work and I accept it as well that yes sharing helps you to feel light but with my experience sharing only made the other person uncomfortable. It creates a sense of awkwardness that you both can't get rid off and this has happened with me not once but twice. It has been said that more than parents, friends are the one who can counsel better simply because they might be going with the same atrocities or situations but the fact is that this premise is partially correct.

Obviously, we have different kinds of people around us and sticking to the topic of sharing, there are basically three types, one who shares each and everything, every small detail of their life even how much they spent the time in washroom glancing at themselves, the next being the sharers who share only their problems or who might need counselling to get out of some beleaguered situations and the last being the reticent group who keep almost everything to themselves and don’t share a thing until it is a zombie apocalypse and they are going to be dead soon.

Certainly I belong to the last type, for which I can give a hundred reasons but would refrain here myself. Before stating, I here mean the whole type. So, the most basic reason is that I can’t cry like a small baby in front of anyone babbling my problems. You were born an individual, with your own organs and mind so, why is there a need to put your head on other’s shoulder and wait for their patting on your back and crave to listen, ‘Don’t worry dude, it’ll soon be over, everything will be fine.’ The ones who share has the only motive to listen to the golden words mentioned above and I don’t see the point here, instead you can say to yourself standing in front of the mirror. Now, the controversial question arises that why do you need help of others in deciding something? So, the answer to which is, asking someone when you are taking a different and important step forward is for the purpose to take advise and advise & sharing are two different sons of the same mother.

Well, then the next point not to share is that you might be already feeling low and you start explaining your problems to someone who might be in super awesome mood but ends up being low themselves. I experienced it thrashing their mood badly for the sake of your being comfortable. Then there are persons who would be your best friends but might be the worst listeners or solvers. One day you might decide to share with them and your friend instead of listening to you patiently ends up explaining his own shit to you and at the end you would be the same as in starting and wondering, is he really my best friend?

The point of publishing this post is the recent events which are going on and although I feel to vent out everything to someone but I can’t and fortunately or unfortunately, I have done inception on myself that I won’t share ever. Although, it feels very nice that someone values you more than others when they explain their problems, when they share.

Down NOT Out

This post might be long but definitely worth a share. I recently had a talk with a person who was my senior in school. So, I thought to share his story because not only its an intriguing one but also motivating.

I'll start with going 6 years back describing this person, let me set his name as 'X' (X because of my love for Maths). So, as being my senior, he was the boss of mine, a little cheeky and brazen but I guess, every senior behaves the same way. Mr.X held a foolhardy personality in his school days, although he was the most famous boy in the school both between students as well as in management. Adding on, being the Head Boy and before House Captain, this guy was the most versatile I ever came across and also he always held the position in top 5 in the class.

But, surprisingly, when he left the school after completing class 10th and went on to join a different school after getting above 90% in the boards examination, he had a complete makeover. The guy was turned introvert with very few friends. Neither did he roam around nor he did any co-curricular. It was extremely bizarre to see the image makeover possibly because of the work load which he got from studying for the JEE examination. As being smart and intelligent, he scored brilliant marks in every test paper of the coaching and not only his teachers were counting on him to crack JEE with a good rank, but also his parents, relatives and friends were also hoping the best but he ran out of luck and didn't get a rank in either JEE or any other examination.

It was like the lightening had struck him, his whole world turned upside down but he was a scrupulous person and without hesitation joined 'Chemistry Honours' in DU University. Although he was scathed by the fact that he didn't crack any examination but was unfazed and unabated by the taunts which he received later from everyone for failing.

He might have taken admission in one of the best colleges of DU University, but the personality which he had was no where near to the one 2 years back. He lacked confidence, his speaking skills were down to zero, he was not that smart as he was earlier. The 2 years almost ate him from everywhere. Moreover, when he managed some strength to fight back, he was rejected by everyone. X tried to get in a couple of clubs and Student's chapter but was rejected every time.

Well, if he was not X and any other person, he would have accepted defeat to the hands of nature because it's not quite easy to reconcile the fact that he failed at the most important exam and selected a different. But, he was not over yet, he rose back and he did that remarkably.

He didn't accept defeat but accepted his line of work. He wrote a research paper which was not only appreciated by his own professors but also by foreign University professors. Then, as having already an interest in Business, he put his step in the share market and within an year he stood over the profit of 1lakh rupees of his own. Not only this, out of being dejected and recluse, he started a new student chapter himself quoting,'You disallow me, I'll ruin you' and is on the eve of opening a NGO. Not only this, he managed to crack IIM-Ahmedabad and is currently pursuing his MBA there. No one in the college knew about him till the end of 2nd year, no one eyed on him for 2 years and now not only he has fame but also he is successful.

The reason for the sharing of this particular story is when I was demoralized and frustrated, knowing about him and his efforts pumped a great energy in me and now I'm filled with all the enthusiasm to fight back.

Let me try to summarize in points,

1. In what so ever field you are, don't neglect it as it is fruitful. It depends upon the person to how to extract benefits from it.
2. The past doesn't sets your end, but the future does.
3. Find happiness in whatever you have but crave for more.
4. Failure doesn't mean OUT, it means to come again with more capacity and capability.
5. You might be down but you won't be never out.
6. Time is a circular river, you'll reach the same place from where you started, but it depend on you whether you'll drown or you'll flow with it.
7. Dreaming satisfies, but conquering your dreams is much more than that.

You might be down, demoralized, feeling incapable of doing anything, but the truth is that's the start of your race, to show the world your worth, to show everyone who considered you a looser what you are capable of. It's time to put your wrath and agony in right direction and make your way to glory.

Exams: Destroying and Reconstructing Happiness

Well, here comes exams back again to ruin the happiness of everyone. Without doubt, exams should be given the no.1 award in the category of omen. Their arrival not only takes away all the happiness, but also dilute the peace and calmness to zero, disallow to sleep and much more. Actually, exams take the test of your patience, 'Brother, let's see how long can you be without being exasperated.'

Although exams are one kind of evil, doing Satan's job in today's world but on the bright side, it has many advantages as well. Yes, exams do have advantages, but yeah obviously I'm not stating with reference to knowledge and marks part. See, while being in Hostel, I learn that the only time you remain in the room with other room mates and friends is the night time as you go out in the morning, finish your classes, roam around the campus and get back only by evening. So, when the exams come nearby, out of fear of marks, parents or grades, you would certainly be glued to one place for the whole day rather roam around everywhere and that's the time when you struck a real conversation (the emotional and sharing one) with your friends as obviously you can't stare at your book for that long, hah!

As I'm reiterating, exams although ruin everything but helps to bring friends together. Like, mostly you will feel miserable while preparing for it and it's common human tendency to talk to your friends about anything which you usually don't other than the topic of exams. You would have the urge to be in a conversation with the friend sitting nearby and you would feel nostalgic and talk to you friends who are not much in contact.

Exams makes you to do all the insane things which you don't want to do when occupied. It's a common observation that out of nowhere you would get fond of movies and TV series. You would become so desperate to watch something and cheat with yourself by saying, 'Just one episode of 20 minutes and then I would study' or 'I should play Fifa 13, transfer season is up, after that I would study.' Moreover, you will make plans of  expedition amid the study and would dream of it intermittently and the best part of the exams is you will fall in love with the sleep again.

Actually, doing all the weird things keeps the mental pressure down, although some regret later of wasting the time but it is nice to be more involved in friendship, watch all the pending episodes and movies, finish your game and sleep satisfactorily. Exams come and go, but the beauty of it would never fade away. It is up to you to do all the weird things apart from studying and make it pass away quickly by enjoying it or stay recluse and irritated while gazing at your books constantly.

Source of MOTIVATION

Motivation, well if you ask someone, what it is? Everyone would answer something this and that and eventually they are somehow the same and prolix, but if you ask them from where does they get this motivation, the answer differs. Some have seen vicious past, some have a strong aim to achieve, some wants to prove to everyone what they really are. Everyone has got their reason, everyone has got something to achieve, but the only roadblock they get is Motivation.

Well, nothing lasts forever, and so is this motivation. You saw a movie for say, Social Network, your adrenaline rush is on fire, you make all the ideas to be the next entrepreneur, to be a college drop-out, to be something big who no one else is and indeed you start working towards it. But, obviously it won't last a long time, it has to fade away sometime, your mind has to be blank again, it has to search again for motivation.

I was motivated from a person, a writer who is the editor of a magazine, editor of many clubs in our college. I simply asked him about the source of his motivation. And the response which he gave me was hilarious, a bizarre and intensified as it was certainly calling to moot.

'Whenever all the wrong thoughts cross my mind, whenever I become a pessimist, whenever I'm out of the ideas and ready to quit, I imagine my mother weeping for me, I imagine my brother patting me, I imagine my father hugging me and I imagine my good friends rising me up. Yes, I do, I think of the day when my novel will be published and the time, when my mother would cry in joy, when my father would be proud of me, when my brother would proudly say to his friends about me.

Moreover, I day dream that I'll be invited to some institution as a key Motivational Speaker and being nostalgic at that moment and explain my story to the youngsters who would be in a desperate need to be motivated. I'll explain them the value of being rich from the rags, to be something different from the bunch of similar people, to rise up from the grave and to be a personality. I day dream the time when I'll be famous, when very other person would be running to get an autograph, to get a glimpse and that is success.

Well, all these dreaming keep me unabated and unfazed from anything, take it bullying, the peer pressure, pessimism or anything, I certainly don't feel aback from these little pity things, just because I see the smiling faces of my close people, how proud they would be if I achieve my goal. I consider only two options for any problem in my life, 1. Success and 2. Try Again.'

His words were imprinted on my mind. He definitely changed my perception and showed me a new way to be motivated. I certainly had the goosebumps when I listened to him patiently. Well, it is simple that whatever your aim is, work for it, make a strategy and conquer it with passion. Intense work is mandatory to achieve your aim, be unscathed from the beleaguered situations, from the usual shackles at every corner. Be motivated, be pumped, achiever your aim, be impeccable.

The Idle Mind

The fundamentals of every other person says not to sit idle, to do some work and when they are completely exasperated they use to use slang like, 'You'll destroy your life sitting like this' 'You can't make money sitting idle' 'You are such a dull pathetic creature' and much more which I can't obviously write. All these slang comes from the people who are closer to you but let's not move in that way at-least now.

What I believe is that the power, the real power of brain, the thinking capacity is generated at the most when you are idle. Usually you do nothing, maybe because of a weekend or before exams tension, or irritated from everything or possibly you don't what to do anything, you believe in staying recluse.

Although its an imbroglio situation to handle, to get a control but if you utilize it properly and efficiently then you might turn up with the next big plan to be the next big thing. Actually, every person is creative in his own way, some knew it from a small age, some realizes it later and then there are some, who always fell that they are creative but do nothing in transforming it.

For example, the idea of myself being a writer or poet came from an idle mind while pooping. It was 1.5 years back when every friend of mine was busy playing the game counter strike and I sat there idle looking at them. Moreover, as this weekend started, I decided to be idle and it went awesome, as I got an idea for a project within few hours being idle.

It's lame to say to every idle person that they are useless, although some are, but that's the perfect time to think out of the box and work over it. The idle mind is necessary in its own way, it takes us away from the regular work tension, classes, projects, assignments, arrogant friends, career etc etc etc. It's the placid thing to do.

So, believe me, if you are shrouded by many problems, take your time, calm your mind and do nothing, I do mean nothing. Mind is an equilibrium, if you won't work, it will to make the system perfect and hence bringing about some of the brightest ideas ever.