Saturday 14 March 2015

Life is not REAL!

The world which we live in, our existence which is known as life is not real. It was never real and it will never be real. We were born, we grew up doing many things, we made friends, we studied, we worked hard, we got a job, we were married with someone, we had kids, we grew older and we died! Science call it a person's lifetime or life cycle and religion calls it a journey of soul. But in reality, it is plain stupid. Again, how can you determine or know this is reality?

PS: I am not drunk right now!

I always wondered, well from the time I started wondering and it dates back to many year, that what is life? What actually is life? My existence is life? What I feel is life? This planet Earth is life? What is life? Is life the feelings like happy, sad, angry etc? I don't believe there is any person who knows what is life? Every person has a different mindset. Walk on the road, meet strangers and ask them this simple question, what is life? I bet you will get the weirdest and the strangest and the newest of the answers?

We were taught from the starting that there is God who created everything. Well, Science doesn't says so. I am not an atheist but sometimes it's too hard to believe that there is someone who is controlling everything. I can't believe the people's mindset that they don't trust any random stranger but they accept and trust the fact that there is a God who runs and control the whole goddamn Universe! It's really very tough to believe.

So, we were told that Life basically means to be born, grow up and die. This is the basic simple criteria of life and in the whole process, we face trials and tribulations, happiness and success, pain and regret and guilt. Really? Is this life? Life is basically a magic trick performed by the best magician ever and we haven't realized it yet.

Religion says that we have a soul inside us, isn't that frightening in itself? Haven't you ever thought that one day that soul might come out from your body and might talk to you? Frightening! Several experiments have been done on this field and many even agrees with the fact. Incredible Magic trick again!!

Okay, simple point, if really we have a so called 'Life', how can people differentiate between a good life and a bad life? A person born poor and a person born rich, well, who decides that? A person born in USA and a person born in India, who decides that? A person born as a boy and a person born as a girl, who decides that? God? Where is he? Science? How?

Definitely, whoever reading this would either be considering me drunk or maybe insane. I am none. But really, calling a life which has just pain and suffering, is it really worth to have a life? The most intriguing sentence I have heard and read at many places is that, 'I have to know, what I really want in my life' and then, 'I have learned how to live a life.' Please dear friends, please teach me that. How have you learned to live a life? How can you seriously define life?

We are just like animals who are left in wildlife sanctuaries. At a point they start to believe that this is their home and they live there only, despite the fact that they are given a specific place to live. We are the same. Someone pulled a magic trick and we tend to believe everything around us is real.

We know how we are born which is by the process of reproduction. I agree, that is a clear method, believable! But death? What happens after death? If we believe in the 'Soul' term, what happens to it? Confused? There is no proof till date of our after-death, though there are some cases in which people described that they have seen the after-death world. To be very frank, I am scared right now, a little. What if today is the last night and tomorrow was just in the plans. Unpredictable, eh!

People believe in the process of birth, they even believe in Last Birth thing, but when it comes to after-death, the most common answer if asked the same is, 'The soul goes to either Heaven or Hell.' Now what is Heaven and Hell? Again, blank! No answer! There are 1000 questions but not a single answer and people have accepted this fact and they live happily in a so called Life

Dreams, now dreams are the most interesting part of Life! What are dreams? What do we see in it? How dreams are controlled and who controls it? Is there a future in dreams? Answer: um, I don't know! Dreams are just dreams. Everyone would have felt some incidents in reality which they would have seen before in dreams. So, are the dreams portal to the future? The source and motivation of my novel was actually a dream. I won't indulge into the story but to be very frank, I saw a dream much related to the theme of my story and I build the whole novel from it. So, basically what are dreams?

People so casually accept Dreams and Death as a part without even trying to know what they are where as they will take a full info of the people they meet. Amazing, isn't it? Certainly, I have many questions about my existence and about the existence of this whole world. I might probably go insane thinking about it in few years or I myself accept it as a fact. But, Life is not Real, it is the best magic trick someone ever pulled! 

You, Yes you, you are not Alone!

I recently took a trip to Pondicherry which is now Puducherry though the previous name was more cool. Anyhow, I was some 50 meters out from the shore, the water level was roughly around my neck and my feet were barely able to be on the ground in the water. The tides were passing though a big one might have caused trouble that time but I had a backup thanks to my friend. Now, when I was trying to be on my feet, I was more focused on thinking about my 2nd Novel's story rather than drowning or something. My eyes were glued at as far as I could see and for a moment I thought I was all alone there, with no one in sight, just silence, only I felt my presence and of course of water but literally, I realized I was alone. But, just a few minutes later, my friend tapped me on my shoulder from behind and some of the friends were screaming from the shore, asking me to be back there for photo session. Just in split second, I was not alone, I had everyone.

Five days since I returned and none of my friends are in hostel, all have gone home. Of course, anyone would feel alone and a person feels alone when his usual routine changes, when the people he moves with suddenly are not moving with him. Well, as a result, I confined myself in my room after bringing some 4-5 packets of grocery items like biscuits and chips and kept on watching many TV series. Today evening, I stepped out of the room and went out of the hostel and I was mixed up with a dozen people. Alone much? No!

The answer to considering considering yourself Alone is that even if your friends are not with you, even if you don't have much friends, even if you have not many people to talk to, you are still never alone. You have to push yourself to move out from the trite routine to be comfortable and to stop from being Alone.

Each and every person in this world was born as a single individual. Should he be called alone? No! In a few seconds, he would have everyone, he was never alone. Any person on this planet is never alone. Any person who claims to be alone just pretends to be alone, he never is. That person is simply so inspired by the movies or anything that he seems it to be cool and a style statement. Well, that happens for only a few minutes or say hours and then that person himself would turn for some company.

The world was not made to stay away and separate, it is made to be close to each other, to love each other, to know each other and the people just don't understand this simple-simple logic. It's really very easy to keep yourself at a distance from the society or the community. It is really very simple to be bored. It is really very simple to be depress and it is really very simple to declare yourself Alone.

But, everything happens for a matter of some time. After say some hours, you tend to talk to someone and that could be anyone, you find yourself a hobby to remove boredom, you either go to counselor or doctor to tackle your depression. You just try to be with someone and at the end you talk to anyone and whine that you are alone and feel better. In a way, you find a way to remove the 'Alone' factor by indulging into someone or something.

Alone is more of a mood. It happens for a very little time duration. Everyone wants a company, a good company. Some are deprived of it but still they hope not to be alone, some have it and they should really not call themselves Alone.

You are never alone, you just pretend to be alone. If you still consider that you don't have anyone, then find someone so that you would no more feel the same. Move out from being recluse, you will be joined by many new faces, still feel Alone? Go out, do something, do anything, make friends, talk to random people, talk to anyone, because there are billions of people and hence you are not alone.

I read an article somewhere a long time back. It was of a person, a USA soldier who served his country in World War II in France. When he came back after a couple of years after the war ended and after surviving two horrifying years, fighting everyday to be alive, he found that his family was no more. His wife, two small kids and his parents all died in a car crash just a couple of weeks before his arrival. He saved his life in the war but couldn't save his family's. He was obviously disturbed with that news, depressed, he even had to go to psychiatrist after that. He said, 'I killed many soldiers and I saw many deaths but the thought of my family waiting for me kept me to go on. Now, there is no one for whom I should live.' The soldier left the army and stayed at his house for almost an year, even the neighbors didn't know about his whereabouts. After a year, he got a job. He started playing guitar at subways and other places and collected money and took homeless people for a meal and talked to them for hours. It was his way not to be Alone. Apparently, he learned on his son's guitar in an year. So, the people who call themselves Alone, what's your excuse?

Life is too short and if you consider yourself alone then rethink, you would have someone with whom you can talk to, share to. Someone includes anyone and everyone even a random person walking on the road. Alone is just an option, it is you who think to take that option. Don't! You are not Alone, look around, you have someone, you have everyone. You, yes you, you are not Alone!

Friday 23 January 2015

The Taste of Success

So, today's blog entry is not fictional or any kind of motivational drama. This blog entry is only addressed to my friend, Tanu Seth who was placed in a company, Ericsson just a few days ago. As I promised I'll write a blog for you when you'll be placed, so, here it is.

It was July 2014, when three super dream companies came for placements in the college. Super Dreams means CTC above 10 lakhs per annum. Though the hope was very little of being selected, but still rejection is rejection. Moreover, back to back rejections in three big companies definitely hurts.

As every result gives you something to learn, every student as well as Tanu started to study really hard in hope to be placed as soon as possible. When you are in 4th year, the only thing you care about is to see yourself placed. Although that doesn't mean you turn into a self centered lunatic or selfish nerdy character like Chatur Ramalingam. Everyone would be equally happy to see their friends being placed. But, the feeling of yourself getting placed is very different.

So, as the preparations kicked off, companies came and gone but she was not placed. I don't even remember the names of the companies but one after one they came and gone but Tanu was not placed. Sometimes, rejected from written tests, sometimes coding round and sometimes even from the last interview. Definitely, being rejected by approximately more than 25 companies is a disaster in itself. Low in self morale, low in confidence and low in expectancy are just words to say about, but the real feeling, the real pain can be expressed by none until someone has faced it.

I remember after one company, where she was rejected after 2nd interview and where the hopes of being selected were very high after giving a great interview, the mirrors of hopes were broken badly. Eventually, the result made her to skip company after company and when she gave the next company after a month, again she was rejected after the 2nd interview out of 3.

The saturation point had come and the semester was over. I believe after so many rejections, a person would go down and down inside. I have seen people, who whine unnecessarily after being rejected after just a couple of times. If you won't work hard, then how do you expect something in return?

I wrote something related to Rejection a few years back,

''Rejected-rejected-rejected-rejected!
Being rejected is bliss, they say.
The lack of confidence which is created, they never say.

Rejection makes you strong, they say.
The mental stress which is created, they never say.

Rejected once, might lift you up.
But, the spate of it, would only bury you down.

Still, the humans are meant to rise up,
To beat the odds is our duty.
To beat the failures should be the aim.
To conquer our fear should be the word.

If Rejection is for failures, then Reverting back is for success.
Facing Rejection is tough, but once lost is more than that.

Ask a quadriplegic who can’t move,
Ask a blind who can’t see,
Ask a soldier who lost his arm in war,
Ask them how they still survive in this gruesome life.
Ask them how they fight back to live their life.
Ask them how they survive, ask them how they survive.

Life was never straight, the turns were intentionally introduced in it.
A wrong turn might have destroyed much, but it never finishes anything.
There is always the other way, there is always a different time.

The idea is not to lose hope.
The idea is to stand back and fight for what you deserve.
The idea is to be impeccable.
The idea is to fight the rejection.

Everyone deserves something, everyone is good at something.
One trial or two don’t decide the fate, but leaving after it surely does.

There is a long way in a short life, keep up the pace, fight till the end.
You never know, further might be the diamonds after the coal.

Take Rejection as a word, and overcome it by learning it.
A day will come, when you would know to handle it.
A day will come when you would know to face it.
And that day will be the one when you would have achieved your aim.

And then you’ll say, Rejection is Bliss.''

You overcame every trial, every roadblock which came to your way and fought with it efficiently. Even after missing the company at the start of the semester, you took it patiently and today you are placed. It might not be a big deal for many, but it's a very big deal for you, your parents, family and friends. I have seen you suffering, I have seen you fighting and I have seen you conquering.

You are a source of inspiration, a story of motivation. I remember after giving an interview or exam, the only thing you were tensed about was, what's there to eat? Frankly, anyone after giving any entrance exam remain tensed till the shortlist or result comes out but your calmness was brilliant. Everyone should actually learn from it. Many can learn from you to how to keep calm and progress, how to keep your hopes alive and fight, how to properly analyze and hit it. I have seen people crying, I have seen myself after being rejected, the insanely way I behave and then I have seen you, frustrated but no problem, next time.

This is that time when people become so desperate to get a job that they would try for any job and every job, but your aim was fixed and leaving companies for the right one was the impeccable decision ever. You have done a tremendous job after such a disaster last semester both physically and mentally. You deserved it, hence you got it! Ericsson!